La Tortura

Is it possible that you can only see/know the truth from afar?

As many of you know , I longed for Cali while I was in Boston... just as any other college student would miss the sun in the middle of winter in Boston..and don't get me wrong, I ALWAYS loved Boston.. but I still missed home..this was a win win situation.. My love for Boston was not decimated by my missing Cali and vice versa... love is multiplied never subtracted. (how corny but true) ...

As a person that has lived in both places, you come to understand the idiosyncrasy of the culture..some you embrace, some you do not... some you might never understand.

For example, Calenos are a bit lazy...and slow.. the sun is shining, its hot, there is no rush.

New Englanders on the contrary have the , first bird catched the worm thing going on ... I like this... this is me.

Calenos are disorganized.... NEders are not..I like this too.

There is so much snow in Boston... I think I might miss it...(I saw an ER episode with snow in it...) There is so much sun here! jajaja and green mountains and palm trees...

Cali has a lot of good factors...the slowness is good, nice stress free life, no complications, things happen when they happen, every day is pool day, people are warm and affectionate, a bit too gossipy but thats ok. There is no subway..and no coffeeshops though.

So my point is not to draw a list of pros and cons, my point is that you miss things when you dont have them, whether or not you liked them in the first place.

Is this objectivity? Is this me seeing the bigger picture? and appreciating things for their net worth? Or is this sentimentalism? Is this Idealization? Or can we only see things and value them at their net worth when sentimentalism erases the bad, and allows us to see the big picture? Can these two go hand in hand? Instead of hindering each other?

See, when you break up with a boyfriend you hate him. That asshole...but then times goes by and sometimes its hard to remember why you dumped him (unless he cheated or something along those lines) ...so if its one of those times that its hard to remember , you think of the good things, and have to think extra hard of what was bad...but its probably the first time you can look at things and seeif maybe you overreacted once or twice, or if one day he really was being amazing.. in this sense idealization hinders objectivity because you remember the 10 times he was nice and forget the 355 times he was an asshole.

no conclusion.